Sunday, November 30, 2008

Are You a Jackie or a Marilyn? Or Someone Else?

Your result for Are You a Jackie or a Marilyn? Or Someone Else? Mad Men-era Female Icon Quiz...

You Are a Jackie!


You are a Jackie. "I do everything the right way."

Jackies are realistic, conscientious, and principled. They strive to live up to their high ideals.

How to Get Along with Me

* Take your share of the responsibility so I don't end up with all the work.

* Acknowledge my achievements.

* I'm hard on myself. Reassure me that I'm fine the way I am.

* Tell me that you value my advice.

* Be fair and considerate, as I am.

* Apologize if you have been unthoughtful. It will help me to forgive.

* Gently encourage me to lighten up and to laugh at myself when I get uptight, but hear my worries first.

What I Like About Being a Jackie

* Being self-disciplined and able to accomplish a great deal

* Working hard to make the world a better place

* Having high standards and ethics; not compromising myself

* Being reasonable, responsible, and dedicated in everything I do

* Being able to put facts together, coming to good understandings, and figuring out wise solutions

* Being the best I can be and bringing out the best in other people

What's Hard About Being a Jackie

* Being disappointed with myself or others when my expectations are not met

* Feeling burdened by too much responsibility

* Thinking that what I do is never good enough

* Not being appreciated for what I do for people

* Being upset because others aren't trying as hard as I am

* Obsessing about what I did or what I should do

* Being tense, anxious, and taking things too seriously

Jackies as Children Often

* Criticize themselves in anticipation of criticism from others

* Refrain from doing things that they think might not come out perfect

* Focus on living up to the expectations of their parents and teachers

* Are very responsible; may assume the role of parent

* Hold back negative emotions ("good children aren't angry")

Jackies as Parents

* Teach their children responsibility and strong moral values

* Are consistent and fair

* Discipline firmly

Thursday, November 27, 2008


Thanks Katherine for tagging me. I'm supposed to post the fourth picture in my fourth folder on my computer. This is a picture of our eighteen-year-old son, Griffin, fresh out of the shower, leaving for his first year of college at Wake Forest University in North Carolina.

Now to tag four others ... Lauren, Alison, Beth and Kim.

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

I Can Read With My Eyes Shut

Reid trying to keep one eye wide open and the other shut just like The Cat in the Hat in the book, I Can Read With My Eyes Shut

Monday, November 24, 2008

Getting In Shape

Ben and I both need to start an exercise program. During nice weather we've been riding our bikes on Rails To Trails, a nine-mile-long gorgeous path along an old railroad bed that runs along and over the Cumberland River. Ben and I both have two-person trailers that fit behind our bikes, so we pull the little guys (and burn extra calories), and the older kids ride their own bikes. Trouble is now it's just too cold and yucky outside.

I called about yoga classes and planned to start tonight, but I bummed out. They are taught at our church which is thirty minutes from home, and the yoga classes meet on the two evening a week that Ben is home early. I really hate to plan an outside activity on those nights.

So ... Plan B is our Wii Fit. Ben has had several patients tell him recently that they were able to lose a significant amount of weight playing on their Fit, so we're going to give it a go. Here's our first attempt at our new "serious" exercise regimen.

Sunday, November 23, 2008

What Part of Thanksgiving Are You?

You Are Mashed Potatoes

Ordinary, comforting, and more than a little predictable

You're the glue that holds everyone together.

Saturday, November 22, 2008

Hardware Upgrade

Not computers, but teeth. Jensen and Riley both got braces on Friday. We had a couple of kids with sore mouths eating soup broth and drinking milkshakes last night.

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Toasty Toes

I came home to a wonderful surprise! Ben installed the ventless gas logs in the playroom while I was away for the weekend. Now we simply turn a knob to get a roaring fire. Since we don't have to open the flue now, the room is no longer freezing cold the morning after we have a fire. Already we use the room so much more often! All I have left is to hang some drapes and a couple of pictures, and another room is complete.

Monday, November 17, 2008

Rejuvenation Station

I am recharged! The five of us "girls" drank coffee on the front porch and talked, hiked and talked, went out to eat at the marina and talked, watched chick flicks and talked, drank wine and talked, snacked and talked, sat by the fire and talked, talked and talked. One of the women works for the Corps of Engineers, so she was able to rent a very private cabin in the woods that is only available to employees. It was wonderful! All of us have older children who were adopted from Russia when they were between nine and thirteen years old. It was such a blessing to be able to freely talk to other mothers who have dealt with the same joys and struggles of adopting school-age children. It was also so nice to find out that I wasn't alone with so many of my child's issues. I think I returned home as a new-and-improved mom.

Thursday, November 13, 2008

Moms-Only Weekend

Tomorrow I am going on a moms-only weekend. I am so excited! A group of us who adopted school-aged children from Russia through Operation Hope in 2004 and 2005 are going on a retreat. No kids, no husbands, and no responsibilities! I am taking four bottles of wine, fruit and cheese. One mom is bringing champagne and chili, another mom is bringing veggies, salsa, and a cheese ball, and a third is bringing veggie dip, a fondue pot and chocolate. A fourth is bringing gourmet coffee, creamer and a breakfast casserole. We are going to pig out, sit by the fire until 3 am, do a bit of hiking outside our cabin in the woods, and do lots and lots of talking. Middle aged moms -- it's party time!!

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

More Pictures

Why are big sisters' things more fun? He loves pushing around that stroller!

A rare smile

Lil' Eminem

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Shoebox Greetings

Yep, that's a shoebox Ephraim is sitting in. At 15 1/2 months old, he's a real bruiser, huh?

Princess Ephraim

These are the pictures we threaten to reveal to Ephraim's first girlfriend! I've got to find him some gender appropriate dress-up clothes! And no, Ephraim didn't get a haircut. For some reason, his hair just decided to lay down.

Monday, November 10, 2008

The Weekend

This weekend we went to the lake and finished grouting the bathroom. It looks good and wasn't as hard as we imagined. We just have to wait for it to set up, and all that is left is to mop off the dusty film. Then we can install the new toilet and sink and have a working toilet on the main floor again! It will be so nice to not have to run down to the basement.

Other than that, we had a nice, laid-back weekend. We got to the lake late on Friday because we had to hang around town to take Riley to a Boy Scout advancement camp out. Saturday morning, we finished the grouting while the girls played outside making leaf forts, then we drove over to Hopkinsville to buy some groceries, rent a family movie and pick up some Little Caesar's pizza. That evening we had a bonfire, burned up some downed limbs and leaves and roasted marshmallows. Then all the girls got on their pajamas, and we settled down to a movie.

At home we've been working on getting the kids' playroom more comfy and baby friendly. So far I found a great suede and leather sofa at Salvation Army and a bright red lounge chair and tweed rug on Craigslist. I talked Ben into getting ceramic logs for the fireplace since we never get around to hauling wood up the stairs. We bought some ventless logs, so we can just flip a switch and not have to open the flue, knowing we'd be facing a cold, drafty room the next morning. We still have to install the logs, hang some pictures and drapes, refinish the coffee table, and get another lounge chair or love seat, and we'll be set for a chilly winter! Last night Bailey, Thomas, Ben and I watched a movie in the playroom, and the room already felt warmer with the new sofa and rug.

Referral Picture

Referral Picture

Adoption Timeline

  • 2006
  • November 8 - Application Mailed
  • November 22 - Accepted
  • November 24 - I-600A Mailed
  • November 27 - Delivery Confirmed
  • November 28 - Receipt of I-600A
  • November 30 - Fingerprint Notice
  • December 15 - Home Study Update
  • December 21 - Stacey Fingerprinted
  • December 28 - Added to List (#116)
  • 2007
  • January 24 - Home Study Mailed
  • January 25 - Ben Fingerprinted
  • February 8 - Waiting List (#111)
  • February 20 - Waiting List (#109)
  • February 27 - Waiting List (#105)
  • March 8 - Waiting List (#101)
  • March 22 - Waiting List (#99)
  • April 19 - Waiting List (#98)
  • April 25 - Dossier Authentication
  • May 2 - Delivery Confirmed
  • May 2 - Added to SN Wait List
  • May 3 - Waiting List (#97)
  • June 7 - Waiting List (#86)
  • June 25 - Dossier Translated
  • June 28 - On Waiting List Six months
  • July 9 - Waiting List (#81)
  • August 6 - Waiting List (#4 SN)
  • August 8 - Waiting List (#76)
  • September 7 - Waiting List (#70)
  • October 8 - Waiting List (#67)
  • October 22 - Waiting child -- OURS!!
  • October 23 - Official Referral Date
  • October 25 - Letter #1 Submitted
  • October 29 - Referral Receipt - CHI
  • 2008
  • February 5 - Fingerprint Request
  • February 7 - Proof of Delivery
  • March 1 - All Fingerprinted
  • March 3 - I-600 Application Mailed
  • March 5 - I-600 Acknowledgement
  • April 17 - I-600 Approval!
  • May 2 - Original G & R Date
  • May 3 - Fly to Ho Chi Minh City
  • May 5 - MEET EPHRAIM!
  • May 6 - Drive to Kien Giang
  • May 7 - G & R Ceremony
  • May 8 - Medical, Apply for Passport
  • May 12 - Fly to Hanoi
  • May 13 - Visa appointment at USCIS
  • May 14 - Pick Up Visa, Fly Home
  • May 15 - Arrive in Nashville!
  • May 23 - Certificate of Citizenship
  • June 12 - Re-Adoption Filed by Court
  • July 3 - Tennessee Birth Certificate

G & R Day

G & R Day